First You Then Him

A Former Trainwreck's Guide to Becoming then Finding a Healthy Partner

You can’t attract a healthy mate if you aren’t healthy first.

Wish you had a big sister to take you by the hand and explain with brutal, loving honesty why things aren’t working in your life?

After two decades of making all the wrong decisions with life and men, Ninya has learned valuable lessons about both.

First You: The first half of the book will inspire your journey toward self-worth and happiness. Bite-sized lessons infused with humor and the occasional swear word, end with an important takeaway question that will have you on the path to discovering yourself in no time.

Then Him: The second half of the book is about finding him, a healthy partner to share your awesomeness with, someone who is completely compatible with the real you. Short chapters with takeaway questions will help you crush your insecurities, finally recognize what a healthy relationship looks like, and step into the partnership you deserve.

This is your chance to become a kick-ass, solid, strong woman who stands on her own two feet with all the tools you need to add the perfect partner to your life.

BLogger & Author


I was born on July 11, making it easy for potential mates to remember my birthday (There’s a 7/11 right there……) You get extra points if you know what musical that line is from. Named after one of my mom’s friends dogs, I am one of 5 kids born into a catholic family. 

When I was 7, I vividly remember my sister Kesha and I sitting on our quilt covered bunk beds writing little stories for hours. (Yes she is the lucky one because a pop star made her name so recognizable that people could actually pronounce it correctly the first time.) Hey, we didn’t have a lot of things, so the imagination was an amazing place to concoct a life we wanted. 


Life Goal. To Write Something So Good They Make A Terrible Movie About It.


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